Monthly Archives: April 2018

Surviving Failures…..

Success and failure are two sides of the same coin. Like stars can not shine without darkness, success cannot exist without facing failures few or more times.

However, even if there is so much positivity, encouragements and plenty of philosophical thoughts behind failures; when our mistakes stare us in the face; it is almost impossible to not to let negative feelings rule our mind. That is why it is important to realize that certain failures in life are really a blessing in disguise.

It requires immense strength to admit our faults and even greater strength to witness the light at the end of the tunnel. A failed try is an opportunity to return with a smarter approach. The idea of success itself comes through the process of learning to fix our errors; rather than embracing victory at the first attempt.

Our ego is the main culprit that prevents us from accepting our failures, since our self-esteem leads us to deny the fact that we were wrong, thus building up various excuses to lay the blame on others.

A failure may not be all exciting, but its’ consequences depend on how you interpret your experience. Failures are a part of life and the universal energies challenge us to decode the hidden message implied by them.

A failure helps us to be exposed to different opinions of others. It guides you to redefine the priorities in life and let you realize your true friends who bond with you through thick and thin. It develops ways to deal with different emotions and educate us with the lesson that we should not get too much attached to the plan, since even the “Unsinkable Titanic” also failed to complete its journey.

There are certain failures that are necessary to thrive in life.

  • It takes a toxic relationship or a failed romance to appreciate when the soul mate comes along.
  • An unsatisfactory  career choice to discover the true passion in life
  • A broke financial position to value a stable income
  • Or simply an awful hairstyle to find out which fashion highlights the finest features of you.

 

Life is all about understanding and accepting the journey even it makes no sense at this moment. The tragedies we confront ultimately create the best version of ourself, since a smooth sea has never made a good sailor…

To Travel is to Live

“To Travel is to Live” – Hans Christian Anderson

There is nothing quite like travelling, seeing a place for the first time, experiencing a new culture or returning to a favorite place which has left you enchanted. Ibn Battuta;  the greatest traveler of Pre-modern times has once stated that “Travelling…first it leaves you speechless…Then it turns you into a storyteller”, which beautifully narrates the excitement of travelling.

Recent studies have relieved that “travelling” brings satisfaction more than financial wealth, since it open doors for many adventures. It also warms your heart and set your mind free .A travelling exposure doesn’t necessarily have to be to a foreign location; it could also be a well known local place that has captured your soul.

It is a big world out there and there are seven billion people who live each day of their lives having different yet unique experiences. Travelling allows one to grasp those experiences and conceive them into their hearts.Travelling enlightens us that how insignificant and irrelevant the problems we thought that were so significant are.It affirms us how small our surroundings are and that we are not the only ship in the sea.

Travelling gets a person out of their comfort zones, away from their routine life styles, which enables them to realise their true selves and to make most out of this precious gift of life.

Travelling allows us to witness our native ambience in a different light. We all live between the crazy chaoses of our lives, thus travelling gives the opportunity to disconnect from our regular monotonous life. It helps  to re-adjust ourselves and re-face our concerns in a more productive manner . Furthermore, travelling helps one to appreciate local settings more as away from home one comes to realise what “home” actually means.

Most importantly travelling increases our knowledge and enhances our wisdom more than reading a book can do, since we actually  get to experience a whole new world, touch the places and smell the fragrances. It helps to build open minded persons as it encourages one to encounter different backgrounds. Food and culture is the most important in a new location , as different flavors of food and different colours of the culture of a far away destination is a soul awakening experience for sure.

One would never regret taking time off and spending the valuable savings while flying away to a distant  location, since to travel is eventually is to find yourself and most importantly it allows you to be in love with the cities that you have never been to and adore the people that you have never met. Travelling gives you strength to appreciate the dissimilarities between different cultures and to embrace the similarities among them , explaining that ultimately all of us belong to the same tribe  of “ humans on Earth”.

Let the Children be…..

“The word can be a serious place. That is why it is important to go outside and play. I hope you take time to smell all the flowers and put all the leaves you want in your bucket now” – Words by Mark Zuckerberg to his daughter “August”

Children are the beautiful flowers that blossoms in the life’s garden. They are the sunshine that brings warmth into our heart and we as parents holds the greatest responsibility of shaping them as all the children are uncut diamonds. Every child is gifted in his own way and behind every kid who believes in himself; there is the parents who believed in him first and let him be proud of himself.

The future world desires a generation with an optimistic sense of self and who is able to feel the beauty in the surroundings; not robotic creatures who fail to see the colours in this world.

The greatest thing we can do for our children is “let them just be children” for they will not have this precious childhood for long. They should be free from the pressure and free from judgments for they are the tiny version of our selves who needs love and acceptance to follow their vivid and unscripted imaginations.

Let them dream and let them be sad, since that is how they should be taught that the world will not be fair for them always.  Let them play; let them eat that ice cream that they so badly crave. Hopefully if one day we can allow them to run outside when it’s raining or if we let them remove shoes and dance in that puddle of water that they find so fascinating and let them shout and laugh when the sun rays touches their faces; they will have the chance to grasp that ever so magical childhood that their small hearts yearn from us.

Love is what they need to thrive and be confident yet humble human beings.  We as modern parents are prepared to do almost anything for our children except letting them just be themselves. At the end, our task as parents should be to ensure that our children will always have a home filled with love and understanding to return to…no matter where they wonder off in life.

Just think a min

A tribute to an Unknown Soul…..

Life is too short and happiness is too rare

One day when I was waiting in the car, looking at the road and wondering about everything…wondering about nothing…Then I saw this person, a pleasant looking middle aged person. He was crossing the road. It was just an ordinary sight. And then…..BLAST….!!! He was down and bleeding. He has been hit by another vehicle. It all happened within a blink of an eye that it took me a while to realize what had really happened.

People gathered around him, someone called for an ambulance. Someone else called for police. I was in a state of shock for a few minutes. I was may be the only person who saw him….just seconds before he passed out. I saw how he was struggling to get up. I know he wanted to LIVE. The ambulance drove away hurriedly…leaving me with thousands of emotions.

Maybe his wife was waiting for him at home. May be he has promised his children that he will come home early that day. May be he was returning from meeting someone he loves. May be he was his parents last hope.

Life is so fragile, we hear this almost every day. Yet, have we really apprehended it?

We always wonder about the purpose of our existence in this world, hesitating whether we are at the right place at this phase of our lives; that we forget everyday to LIVE life. What we fail to realize is that we are losing precious moments of our lives which we can never be reoccurred.

Love and respect everyone around you. Who knows? It may be the last time you will get to see them. Take one moment at a time. Walk through life a little slower. Do not waste this precious life stressing over things you do not have any control. Our happiness lies within us. We will not find it anywhere else.

Love with an open heart. Love fully, forgive easily and choose wisely. Just take a look around. There are so many things to be appreciative to… people who makes the life worth living for. Life is beautiful. We just have to feel it. Follow your heart, listen to the nature; you may find the answers there and you may just find yourself there…!

Grow old with me…..the best is yet to be…..

Growing old together, still being in love is the most beautiful fraction of a relationship. Though it is not a miracle; it’s certainly an accomplishment that requires much dedication. The fact that whether you are with the right person holds very little significance since, it is very seldom in life that we find the ideal life partner. A great relationship is all about learning to love the person you are committed to and treasuring your better half for the rest of your life.

Witnessing an amazing transformation

Growing old together means, grasping the changes that life offer along the way; those changes may be in the form of financial, physical or social. It is also witnessing your partner embracing an amazing transformation from young and naïve in to an old and bold individual.  Happiness is not a constant state of mind and true relationship involves a roller coaster ride which has its own ups and downs. Romance and intimacy to be present daily is a myth and accepting this fact and uncovering ways to revive these feelings is what a strong bond requires. Every now and then engaging in childlike activities and discovering ways to have fun in various ways without losing the sense of wonder keeps the mundane feelings away from the relationship.

While children will undoubtedly make the foundation of the marriage more solid; experiencing the whole journey of parenthood together is the essence that adds flavor to the marriage.

It is the little things that matters

It is the small gestures in life that create the biggest joys in the heart. Hence showing the love and affection you have for each other every day even in a small act can bring so many blessings in to the relationship. May it be a text message with love, a surprised gift, a bouquet of flowers or just a random hug.

Wrinkles bring wisdom in to the marriage and it is a real privilege to have someone to grow old with, to have someone to expose your vulnerabilities and finding a sense of protection in one another. Pure kindness towards each other shields the relationship from the evils in the world and being each others’ best friend throughout this journey makes the living worthwhile. It may not be a perfect journey, but a unique one that belongs only to the two of you.

Growing old together is experiencing an adventure with your best friend and what matters most is learning to enjoy the ride along the way. A true love is finding a place to call “Home” in one another, believing in each other, staying strong for each other at their worst and finally arriving at every destination in life…holding hands..Together…!